Fear becomes the doorway to growth

 When Fear Arrived, I Discovered My Strength

“Fear came… and that is when I understood my strength.”

There are moments in life when everything feels stable, predictable, and under control. We believe we are strong. We believe we are capable. But the truth is — we often don’t truly know our strength until we are tested.

Fear has a strange way of revealing who we really are.

Fear Is Not the Enemys

Most of us grow up thinking fear is weakness. We try to avoid it. We hide from it. We pray that difficult situations never come into our lives.

But what if fear is not our enemy?

What if fear is actually a mirror — showing us the power we didn’t know we had?

When life is easy, we don’t need courage. When everything goes according to plan, we don’t need resilience. But when fear enters — whether through failure, illness, loss, rejection, or uncertainty — something inside us awakens.

That awakening is strength.

The Moment of Realisation

Think about a time when you were truly afraid.

Maybe it was:

Starting over in a new place

Facing a health challenge

Speaking up when it was difficult

Losing someone you loved

Taking a risk that could change everything

At that moment, your heart was racing. Your mind was full of doubt. You felt vulnerable.

But you didn’t give up.

You stood up.

You survived.

You moved forward.

And only later did you realise:

“I was stronger than I thought.”

Fear did not break you. It introduced you to yourself.

Strength Is Born in Struggle

Strength is not built in comfort. It is built in struggle.

A muscle grows only when it faces resistance. Similarly, the human spirit grows only when it faces challenges.

Fear pushes us beyond our limits. It forces us to think differently, act bravely, and trust ourselves in ways we never have before.

Without fear, we might never discover:

Our courage

Our patience

Our faith

Our resilience

Our inner power

Fear becomes the doorway to growth.

Fear Changes Us — In a Good Way

After facing fear, we are never the same.

We become:

More confident

More aware

More compassionate toward others

More grateful for small victories

The situations that once terrified us slowly lose their power. And we begin to walk with a quiet confidence — not because life is easy, but because we know we can handle it.

That is true strength.

Embrace the Fear

The next time fear enters your life, don’t immediately wish it away.

Pause.

Ask yourself:

What is this fear trying to teach me?

What strength is this situation asking me to discover?

Who will I become after I face this?

Fear is uncomfortable. But it is also transformational.

Sometimes, fear doesn’t come to destroy us.

It comes to introduce us to our power.

Final Thought

“Fear came… and that is when I understood my strength.”

Maybe fear was never your weakness.

Maybe it was the moment your true strength began.

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अपने भाव

 अपने भाव 

 विचार के बीच से ही कर्म का फल बनता है। इसीलिए सिर्फ शुद्ध विचारों के ही बीज बोने चाहिए। जैसे कि श्रेष्ठ फल की प्राप्ति हो सके। हम क्या करते है इसका महत्व कम है ,परतुं उसे हम किस भाव से करते है इसका महत्व बहुत है। 

अंदर के भाव मे बड़ी ताकत होती है। जेसे भाव होते है वेसे कर्मबंदन होते है।  हम कोई भी क्रिया करते है, उसमे भी जेसे भाव होंगे वेसा ही फल मिलेगा।

जेसे हम जो बोलते हे वो सामने वालेको पता चलता है , जो हम क्रिया करते है वो दिखाई देता है, पर हमारे अंदर जो विचार चल रहे है वो किसी को भी दिखाई नहीं देते हे,पर उसी भाव से कर्म a/c बनता है 

 जेसे सुबह में हमने चाय बनाई, गरम गरम चाय हमने कप पे निकाली और  अचानक फोन आ गया और हम ने ये सोचा के चाय तो मुझे गर्म ही पसंद हे, चाय ठंडी न हो जाय इसलिए हमने उसे ढक दी, ताकी हम बादमे गर्म चाय पी सके। .. ये हो गया हमारा एक भाव। ... अब इसकी जगह हम ये सोचे की "अरे! चाय बहोत गरम हे खुली रह गई तो कुछ जीवजंतु उड़के चाय में गिरके मर जायेगा तो उस जीव को बचाने के लिए हम ने चाय ढक दी।  ये हो गया हमारा दुसरा भाव। ... 

अब आप ही सोचो कोनसे भाव मे हमे पुण्य मिल सकता हे ??

पहले भाव मे हमने हमारे बारे मे सोचा,  हमारे मन के बारे मे ,हमारे मन को ठंडी चाय पसंद नहीं थी। ... पर दुसरे मे हमारे भाव दूसरे जीवो के बारे मे सोच रहा था इसलिए हमारा कर्म  (पुण्य) यही पर अच्छा बन जाता है। बात तो एक ही थी चाय को ढक देना, पर मन के भाव अलग- अलग थे इसलिए जो भी कर रहे हो पहले भाव को देख लेना चाहिए। 

हम सब ने ये अनुभव किया ही होगा की हम अचानक किसी के घर बीन बताये चले गए और सामने वाले ने भी बहुत  मीठे शब्द मे welcome किया, खाना भी खिलाया और ख़ुशी से बात भी कर रहे हे, पर कहीना कही हमे अच्छा महसूस नहीं हो रहा। ..और सोचते हे जल्दी चले जाय। ..वो इसलिये होता हे क्योकि वो व्यक्ति किनता भी मीठा बोले पर उनके मन मे अलग भाव चल रहे थे, तब वो मन से यह सोच रहा था....ये लोग ऐसे केसे बिना बताये आ गए!  मुझे अब उनके लिए खाना भी बनना पड़ेगा, ख्याल भी रखना पड़ेगा, मुझे तो कल सुबह जल्दी उठाना था अब late हो जायेगा।।अब मेरा पूरा दिन ख़राब हो जायेगा !ऐसे कुछ विचार चल रहे होते हे, तब हमें ऐसा कुछ महसूस होता हे। .. जो महसूस होता हे वो हम दिखा नहीं सकते पर ये सब मन के भाव ही होते हे जो कभी दिखाई नहीं देते हे पर आप उसे महसूस कर सकते हो 
ये अंदर के भाव थे, वो सामने से तो अच्छे से बात कर रहे है पर मन के भाव में कुछ और, तो अब यह सोचो कर्मा कोनसा बनेगा? 
 इसीलिए जेसे भाव आएंगे वेसा ही फल हमें मिलेगा! जिस दिन आपके अंदर उच्च विचार आएंगे तभी आपके अंदर के भाव बदल जाएगे और हम हर पल अच्छे कर्म कर सकेंगे। मन के भाव ही हमारे कल को बदल सकते है. जिस दिन हम ने हमारे भीतर देखना शुरू कर देंगे हमारा कर्मा बदल जायेगा। हमारे किये गए कार्य का फल भी हमें अच्छा ही मिलेगा बस जरुरत है तो हमारे अंदर के भाव को देखने की समझने की 

आप सभी से छुपा सकते है पर कर्म आपको देख रहा है ,
बस आप ये याद रखे की यह आपके और दुसरो के बीच नहीं ! पर हमेशा आपके और कर्मा के बीच है. कर्म - बोल और व्यवहार में नहीं। उसके पीछे की सोच और भावना में है.श्रेष्ठ भावना ही श्रेष्ठ भाग्य बनाती है। 

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Accept what you can't change

                      जो मिला हैं उसे स्वीकार करो 

 " आपके जीवन मे केवल दो ही विकल्प है 

१) स्वीकार करो 

          या 

 २)बदल ने  का प्रयास 

तो इसे स्वीकार करने की कोशिश करें जो आप नहीं बदल सकते, और जो आप स्वीकार नहीं कर सकते हैं उसे बदलने का प्रयास करें। " 

प्रकृति से मनुष्य बहुत कुछ सिख सकता है करोना ने हमे सिखाया हे जीवन में जब अंधकार छा जाये, कुछ दिखाई न दे तो व्यर्थ कोशिश करने के बजाय एक -एक कदम सावधानी से चलना चाहिए। मुश्केली के साथ कैसे जीना है वो पूरी दुनिया को करोना ने  सीखा दिया है। अपने जीवन में जो भी आए उसे स्वीकार करो ऐसा कोई भी इस दुनिया में नहीं है जिसे दुःख न हो ! बस उस दुःख को हम अपने मन से कितना स्वीकार करते है उस पर हम खुश या दुःखी जीवन जी सकते है. जहा स्वीकार की शक्ति होती है वहा दुःख हलका हो जाता है और जहा प्रतिकार होता है वहा जीवन जीना दुखी हो जाता है। संकट आये तो स्वीकार करो, नुकशान हो तो स्वीकार करो फायदा हो तो स्वीकार करो, मन अगर स्वीकार करना सीख लेगा तो आप को कोई दुःखी नहीं कर सकता। मन के अज्ञानता से हम दुःखी होते है, कोई हमे दुःखी नहीं कर सकता हम खुद के अज्ञानता से ही दुःखी होते है.

छोटा सा उदारण देती हु जैसे हम अगर गुरु के पास जाते हे तो हम नीचे बैठ कर वंदन करते है, क्योकि मन को पता है की गुरु के पास जाये तो हमारी जगह उनके चरणों में है हमे नीचे बेठ के आर्शीवाद लेना है। यहाँ पे मन ने पहले से स्वीकार कर लिया है की हमारी जगह कहा पे है। .... पर हम किसी के घर जाये और उसके घर सोफा हो फिर भी वो हमें नीचे बिठाये तो !! तो हमे बुरा लगता हे। ..... पर सोचो बात तो वहीं है। ... पर आपके मन को स्वीकार नहीं है, जेसे हमारे मन ने पहले से स्वीकार किया हे की काहपे बैठ ना है और काहपे नहीं, गुरु के पास नीचे बैठना मन को स्वीकार है, पर कही पे मन स्वीकार नहीं कर सकता इस लिए हम दुःखी होते है.

सब मन का खेल है तन से ज्यादा मन की बीमारी का कोई इलाज नहीं होता,अगर कुछ बुरा हो रहा है तो उसे हम बदल नहीं सकते पर उसे स्वीकार करके जीवन को खुशी से जी सकते हे। क्योकि जीवन तो दुःख से भरा है हमें अपनी खुशी, अपना जीवन खुद चुनना है.

एक माँ बच्चे को जन्म देती है और वो बच्चा जन्म से चल नहीं सकता तो उसे हम बदल नहीं सकते पर कोशिश कर सकते है.. अपने प्यार से,अच्छे डॉ को दिखा के, अच्छा इलाज करके हम पुरी कोशिश कर सकते है, समय को हम बदल नहीं सकते पर जो है ,उसे स्वीकार करके जीवन को थोड़ा सा बदल सकते है... थोड़ी सी खुशी खुद को और दुसरो को भी दे सकते है.

ये जिंदगी जो आप अभी जी रहे है, वो बहोत से लोगो के लिए ये अभी भी सपना है। 

अधिक ध्यान उस पर दो जो आपके पास है, उस पर नहीं जो आपके पास नहीं है! 

जिंदगी में तो कठिनाईया आती ही रहती है। ... और ऐसा भी नहीं होता जो हमे चाहिए वो हमे मिलता ही हे तो हमे हमारे पास जो है उसे स्वीकार कर के खुश रहना सीखना है नहीं तो कभी -कभी जो हमारे पास है वो भी चला जायेगा।

जीवन में हम "कुछ "बदल सकते है पर "सब कुछ" नहीं !

let your child make mistake

                       

      LET OUR CHILDREN MAKE MISTAKES

Allowing your child to make mistakes isn't about hurting their feelings but when they make the wrong decisions it's about helping your child develop the problem and improve their powers.

 of course, you would never want to allow your child to make a mistake that would cause real harm. you never want your child to feel sad but you can help your child navigate such emotions by explaining that everybody experiences these feelings. for example, i and my son love to play cards whenever we play, I sometimes let him win to see his smile and, sometimes I don't let him win to see how challenging he can be

let them learn from their own experience. you can't shield your child from the realities of this world forever.

I think it's necessary to let kids get bored once in a while that's how they learn to be creative. do not handicap your children by making their lives easy, if we do everything for our children, how will they learn to do anything for themselves?

when your child asks you for help or any question do not share your knowledge immediately. first, you should encourage them to try and ask them their opinion. let them do it first their way and then help them to improve. when a child takes a decision and makes mistakes they understand their strengths and they are able to learn to tolerate stress and develop their own way

let them forget their lunch.

let them miss a target.

let them wear dirty socks.

let them leave their homework at home let them fail a test.

a wrong answer, a failed test, a lost library book are all opportunities for your child to learn. let them experience those tough moments. show him how to respond for next time

They'll never be successful without a few failures, they will never be strong unless they get hurt. allowed to make smaller mistakes early on in life will have a better idea of how to emotionally handle the aftermath 

If I protect my children from making mistakes means I just delay them from learning the lessons they need to learn 

WHEN YOU ARE SAD

            

     what to do when you are sad

sadness is just a felling and that will not remain for sad for a longer time. It's only temporary!!

when I m sad, my goal is to be there for me to, take care of myself and to do what's best for me in the moment...spending a little bit more time pampering myself😉😉

I think the only person who can change the course of life is yourself...here I m sharing my experience

(do not give time for your mind or body to get sad, you can just get involved somewhere)

1) you can use ink and paper to put down your feelings.you are not going to keep these feeling with you or you are not going to share them with anyone, so you can just start writing and write your feelings down. This will help you in relaxing your body.

(personally I feel writing always ends up releasing my feelings)

2)you need to do is get proper sleep to much of tiredness can also make you sad so do not miss 8hr of sleep because your body and mind need some rest (take a nice nap)

3)Do a breathing exercise with your body to relax. Be it for five minutes or walking can keep you energised and boost your energy levels and we all know that exercise can help you active all day long and you will not feel sad at all.

4)doing nothing when we are sad right?? so what you really need is to be out of your house means get out of the house and just go with shopping or spend some time with your close buddies.😘 great outdoors visit is a magical moment.

 5)start listening to some music 🎵 or dance  is also good option for those who do not want to be sad or do something creative like draw something or cook or you could write or take some beautiful photos

6)In our society tends to see crying as a sign of weakness but I disagree!! it's actually very healthy. it's important to all that sadness has got to go somewhere : so let it out

THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE OF ALL PLEASE BE KIND TO YOURSELF AND PATIENT  WITH YOURSELF.😊

Tell me in the comments what you do when you feel sad and be sure to join us on Instagram.

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EMOTION

                       When an Emotion is Triggered

"YOU DON'T NOTICE IT YOUR BRAIN IS CONTROLLING MANY THINGS IN YOUR BODY."

you might not even notice you're doing these things automatically, some muscles in your body to move... for example: during happiness you might smile, your voice might sound more excited and you might stand up a bit taller ..right??😉😉 Another part of an emotional reaction is that when anxiety in our stomach or stress in our neck or "anger" is a heady top of body emotion or when we are afraid of something our hearts being to race our mouths become dry this emotional reaction occurs automatically and unconsciously, feelings occur after we became aware in our brain of such physical changes only then do we experience those feeling of fear.

A PERSON CAN HAVE DIFFERENT THOUGHTS ABOUT THE SAME SITUATION.

our emotions are often caused by our thought. This means two people are be in same situation, but they might feel different emotions because they have different thought. your emotional reactions are usually caused by your thoughts, sometimes your brain can also trigger an emotional reaction unconsciously means our brains do lots of things that we don't notice these are called unconscious processes. 

sometime when people are sad, they often just want to stay home in their rooms alone and think about their problems (m I right?) but this can sometimes just make them feel worse...so what we can do? there are some good skills you can practice, which can help you deal with emotions....

how to get out of sadness(solution)is given in PART-2

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PAIN CAN RELEASE TALENTS

                      PAIN CAN CHANGE THE PERSON

PAIN CAN CHANGE PEOPLE, WHETHER IT'S IN A GOOD OR BAD WAY....

sometime pain teaches people the ugly truth, some turn a blind eye and focus on smiling again. some realise the bitterness and MOVE ON.

There are two types of pain in this world:

pain that hurts you, & pain that changes you

pain can unconsciously make a person create boundaries, because when you get hurt and it's a deep level of hurt, you will automatically build a wall of protection around your heart..because you don't want the pain to break you anymore..

we don't give life a change to surprise us because we don't want to be disappointed again...we don't want to fail again..we don't want to feel like we're worthless.

pain change person mostly for the better, but when people suffer, they try to do everything they can to avoid it, not as trusting, not as innocent, not as pure and now we're more careful, we're afraid, we don't want to be bitter and we don't want to repeat the same mistakes again... we don't want our hearts to sink into the ground again, we don't want to cry uncontrollably again and we don't want to fell weak again.

But sometime pain can be the best protection because you are now more aware..more strong...now you now the capacity of your abilities, sometimes you have to be broken, in being broken, there will be a mixture of pain levels, but "being BROKEN" is a PRIVILIEGE" being broken gifs you the opportunity to build yourself even stronger then you were before the break!! its a privilege to be able to start over and have another chance

sometimes I wish pain didn't change us, I wish pain didn't get so deeply to us, so we can love live, hope and dream like we used to. so we can believe in happiness and miracles the way we used to.

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