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                               LET OUR CHILDREN MAKE MISTAKES Allowing your child to make mistakes isn't about hurting their feelings but when they make the wrong decisions it's about helping your child develop the problem and improve their powers.  of course, you would never want to allow your child to make a mistake that would cause real harm. you never want your child to feel sad but you can help your child navigate such emotions by explaining that everybody experiences these feelings. for example, i and my son love to play cards whenever we play, I sometimes let him win to see his smile and, sometimes I don't let him win to see how challenging he can be let them learn from their own experience. you can't shield your child from the realities of this world forever. I think it's necessary to let kids get bored once in a while that's how they learn to be creative. do not handicap your children by ...

                  what to do when you are sad sadness is just a felling and that will not remain for sad for a longer time. It's only temporary!! when I m sad, my goal is to be there for me to, take care of myself and to do what's best for me in the moment...spending a little bit more time pampering myself😉😉 I think the only person who can change the course of life is yourself...here I m sharing my experience (do not give time for your mind or body to get sad, you can just get involved  somewhere) 1) you can use ink and paper to put down your feelings.you are not going to keep these feeling with you or you are not going to share them with anyone, so you can just start writing and write your feelings down. This will help you in relaxing your body. ( personally I feel writing always ends up releasing my feelings) 2)you need to do is get proper sleep to much of tiredness can also make you sad so do not miss 8hr of slee...

                         When an Emotion is Triggered "YOU DON'T NOTICE IT YOUR BRAIN IS CONTROLLING MANY THINGS IN YOUR BODY." you might not even notice you're doing these things automatically, some muscles in your body to move... for example: during happiness you might smile, your voice might sound more excited and you might stand up a bit taller ..right??😉😉 Another part of an emotional reaction is that when anxiety in our stomach or stress in our neck or "anger" is a heady top of body emotion or when we are afraid of something our hearts being to race our mouths become dry this emotional reaction occurs automatically and unconsciously, feelings occur after we became aware in our brain of such physical changes only then do we experience those feeling of fear. A PERSON CAN HAVE DIFFERENT THOUGHTS ABOUT THE SAME SITUATION. our emotions are often caused by our thought. This means two people are be in same...

                      PAIN CAN CHANGE THE PERSON PAIN CAN CHANGE PEOPLE, WHETHER IT'S IN A GOOD OR BAD WAY.... sometime pain teaches people the ugly truth, some turn a blind eye and focus on smiling again. some  realise the bitterness and MOVE ON. There are two types of pain in this world: pain that hurts you, & pain that changes you pain can unconsciously make a person create boundaries, because when you get  hurt and it's a deep level of hurt, you will automatically build a wall of protection around your heart..because you don 't want the pain to break you anymore.. we don't give life a change to surprise us because we don't want to be disappointed again...we  don't want to fail again..we don't want to feel like we're worthless. pain change person mostly for the better, but when peo ple suffer, they try to do everything they can to avoid it, not as trusting, not as innocent, not as pur...

                                                                    अपने भाव   विचार के बीच से ही कर्म का फल बनता है। इसीलिए सिर्फ शुद्ध विचारों के ही बीज बोने चाहिए। जैसे कि श्रेष्ठ फल की प्राप्ति हो सके। हम क्या करते है इसका महत्व कम है ,परतुं उसे हम किस भाव से करते है इसका महत्व बहुत है।  अंदर के भाव मे बड़ी ताकत होती है। जेसे भाव होते है वेसे कर्मबंदन होते है।  हम कोई भी क्रिया करते है, उसमे भी जेसे भाव होंगे वेसा ही फल मिलेगा। जेसे हम जो बोलते हे वो सामने वालेको पता चलता है , जो हम क्रिया करते है वो दिखाई देता है, पर हमारे अंदर जो विचार चल रहे है वो किसी को भी दिखाई नहीं देते हे,पर उसी भाव से कर्म a/c बनता है   जेसे सुबह में हमने चाय बनाई, गरम गरम चाय हमने कप पे निकाली और  अचानक फोन आ गया और हम ने ये सोचा के चाय तो मुझे गर्म ही पसंद हे...

                          कर्म  किसी  को नहीं छोडता  कर्म  एक दर्पण है | जो कुछ भी हमने किसी के साथ किया है, वो आज हमारे सामने है।  भगवान कहते है :   "में किसीका  भाग्य नहीं बनाता हूँ, हर कोई अपना भाग्य खुद बनाता है। तुम आज जो कर रहे हो उसका फल तुम्हे कल प्राप्त होगा और आज जो तुम्हारा भाग्य है वह तुम्हारे पहले किये गए कर्मो का फल है।  एक बार महाराज धृतराष्ट्र ने रोते हुए भगवान कृष्ण से पूछा :मेने ऐसा कोनसा पाप किया है जो मुझे १०० पुत्र की मौत  देखनी पड़ी, मेने तो अपने पिछले १०० भव देख लिए पर ऐसा कोई पाप (कर्म ) नहीं दिखाई दिया, अब आप ही बताओ: मेने ऐसा क्या किया था जो मुझे अपने १०० पुत्र की मौत  देखनी पड़ी? तभी भगवान कृष्ण ने कहा बात १०० जन्म की नहीं है ये उस्से पहले के कर्म है, आज से १०० जन्म पहले आप एक बहोत बड़े सम्राट थे. बड़े संवेदनशील और दयालु थे, आप  बड़े न्यायी थे. आप का न्याय सारी दुनिया में फैला हुआ था सारी दुनिया में आप का...

WHAT CHILDREN WANT FROM PARENTS As a parents, we often think about what we want for our children, but we rarely worry about what kids want, mostly we assume we know more then they do and our decision are always better ..But if we listen closely to what they want, we will find that some tiny things... children wants your attention. They want their parents to listen to them in a respectful way, without correcting them. They need emotional support.. children will do as you do, not as you say... If you do not respect your children, they will in turn learn not to respect you.  show your child respect through your tone of voice and acts of listening... spend alone time with your kids and build respect and closeness. kids are like sponges who absorb everything they see and hear... mostly kids say the words they pick up from adults or peers even if they have heard it only once. I always try to putting so much energy into preparing good food, planning holidays and going overboard ...